As a married thirty-year old, with many single friends and constantly hearing about the details of their dates, I can honestly say many of these girls are single because they want to be.
I can say this because I was there once.
My friends are just like me. Pretty, educated and successful. We are go-getters who have accomplished quite a bit since we left our parents’ homes to venture off to college. In college we established our grounds socially, faired well academically, and successfully landed jobs to be wholly independent.
If we can set our minds on something others find challenging, surely we can find a relationship – I mean, check out Facebook – EVERYONE is in a relationship (but that’s a whole other topic).
When hearing about their dates, my friends tell me everything that’s been discussed – including when the guy asks when they can see my girlfriends again.
“Well, I am going to a couple parties tomorrow, then I’m going on a cruise, then I have to travel to Europe for a week for work….”
The reason my girlfriend is single isn’t because she’s too picky; she actually likes the guy sitting in front of her. It’s also not because she’s intimidating (I mean, she’s successful); but the guy across from her sounds just as equally accomplished. It’s because she is busy living a life as a single person.
Does she want to be in a relationship? Yes. But at the moment, it sounds like her independence is far more of a priority than dating.
Here’s the thing. When you are ready for a serious, committed relationship, you put your heart and mind to it. It becomes a priority. You make time for it.
When someone is ready for a relationship, there is a sudden shift in priorities. Perhaps I’d ditch the party to hang out with the guy one-on-one. Or perhaps the cruise can wait awhile while I see where this relationship is going. Or I’ll find a reason to stay and the company would have to send another account executive to Europe.
When you want to be in a relationship, you will make time for it because you want to.
I’m not gonna lie. I love the dual income thing… and having no kids (for now) is even better! Though we still need to save quite a bit for that little house we’ve been wanting, I enjoy the liberty of having two incomes in our household.
What do most married couples (with no kids) spend their money on? That’s for another post! Until next time!
My husband’s father passed away a couple weeks ago and we are still mourning his death. He was an amazing man and has raised an incredible man in my husband.
They say you can tell a lot about a man by how he handles difficult situations. Despite all the material possessions he could ask for, my husband simply asked for 2 things: a photo of himself and his pop that was sitting by his father’s bedside, and a couple of his father’s old shirts. That was it.
The 2 shirts he retrieved were old, faded, and tattered in the arms. When asked why these shirts, he said it was because these were the shirts his dad wore regularly while he was growing up.
I know that many things, small and large, will be happening from this moment that will make my husband wish his father was around to see. I hope this quilt made out of his father’s shirts will be a comforting reminder for him.